A few years ago, I went to see Derek Rake at Shogun Method HQ with a few other Shoguns. There, we talked about one of the most important questions that a guy will face in his lifetime–
How do we choose a girlfriend or wife?
As you’ll know, it’s not a trivial question at all. Why? Well, it’s simple… if there’s one thing that’ll screw a guy up completely, it’s this–
His choice of women.
In the meeting, Derek Rake said to us–
“Most guys come to me because they chose the wrong women. The truth is, if you know how to choose wisely, you won’t need Shogun Method at all.”
I looked at my own situation and realized the truth in Derek’s words. I had HUGE problems with my then girlfriend, and upon being a Shogun, I understood an important thing:
If I chose someone better, I won’t have those problems at all.
I then asked Derek,
“So, how do we choose then?”
And he answered,
“It’s simple. All you need to do is to look for this ONE thing.”
“Every high quality woman has this ONE thing. Every single one of them.”
“Every high quality woman has a loving relationship with her father.”
“When you choose a girlfriend or wife, choose a woman who had a loving father growing up.”
It wasn’t the answer I expected from him, and so I asked him why.
“It’s simple, Fredo,” he told me. “Because how she treats her father is what she is going to treat you.”
“If she had a bad relationship with her father, she will project her experiences she had with him on you.”
“When you are her boyfriend or husband, you’re now the father figure in her life. Whatever emotional burden she had with him is now shifted onto your shoulders.”
“So, the bottom line is this. Stay the fuck away from women with daddy issues.”
And as I recalled back to the women I dated, I realized that what Derek had said was 100% correct.
Believe, I’ve dated so many psychotic women I’ve lost count. The worst were those who grew up either with an abusive or an absent father. Derek’s diagnosis was deadly accurate.
Ever since then, us Shoguns have made it a rule to get the fuck away from women who hated their fathers. We had named the rule after Derek, calling it the Rake Criterion.
Now, here’s the thing…
When you have Shogun Method, you’ll be in the position to choose, and that’s great. You’ll finally get to pick who you want to be with, and trust me, it’s awesome.
But, here’s the kicker. Shogun Method doesn’t tell you how to qualify women. This is Shogun Method’s only weakness I can see, a weakness we have since patched with the Rake Criterion.
So, now whenever I date a woman, I test her with the Rake Criterion.
I ask her early on about her father. If she tries to avoid the question, or worse, starts to bitch about him, I fucking head for the door.
Once, I met this girl and so I casually asked her, “So, how was your dad like?” When she said she “hated that fucker” and she’d “dance on his grave when he dies”, I stood up and left. I mean, she’s real pretty with a huge rack and all, but man, good fucking riddance!
So, here’s what I want to tell you:
Before you jump headfirst into a relationship with a woman, you must qualify her.
See if she has a good relationship with her father. If she doesn’t… there’s only one thing to do, and that’s to WALK. Her sociopathy is not your responsibility.
So, trust me on this. The Rake Criterion will save you from a lifetime of misery and grief having to deal with a crazy woman.
With Shogun Method, you’ll get the prime pick of the crop and you never have to settle for nothing less than the best. Leave the crazies for those desperate losers who don’t know any better. You are a Shogun, and you deserve the best.