“My wife hates me. Can I still save my marriage?”
I get this question a lot… well, once every two days, maybe?
And you know what? The good news is YES, you CAN save your marriage even if your wife hates you right now.
The bad news? You’ll first have to make sure you haven’t made the TWO WORST MISTAKES you could ever make in this situation.
When their wives hate them, most husbands make at least one of these two mistakes. And if YOU have, then you’re in trouble, and so is your marriage. Believe me because this is true.
And if you want to know if you can save your marriage, then you must first know if you’re making these two mistakes. After all, if you don’t know what you’re doing wrong, then you can’t correct yourself.
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So here are the two things to NEVER do when your wife hates you.
The first mistake is to GET EMOTIONAL.
When you realize your wife hates you, it’s easy to feel hurt, defensive, or indignant.
Unfortunately, when you SHOW her how emotional you are, it’s like putting the last nail in the coffin.
I’ll show you why in just a moment.
For now, here’s the second mistake: It’s when you try to GET EVEN.
This means when your wife hates you, you try to show that you hate her, too. You do this in hopes that she’ll change her mind and start fixing the marriage.
Sadly, just like the first mistake, this only pushes your marriage ever closer to divorce.
And let me say the craziest part of this whole problem – MOST MEN end up making one of these two mistakes.
And as a result, they nose-dive straight into divorce litigation. It’s nuts.
Now, here’s the most important thing to understand…
These two mistakes ruin your marriage NOT BECAUSE it strains your relationship.
Instead, it’s because they make you look like a WEAKLING.
I mean, think about it. When you react emotionally or try to “get even,” you’re basically acting like a child.
Here she is, a simple woman. And here you are, a man who looks, sounds, and acts like a little brat. All because he couldn’t handle a simple woman.
Do you think women could ever fall in love with a weakling?
In fact, she’ll feel JUSTIFIED in wanting to leave you. She’ll be convinced there are lots of better, stronger men out there than you.
Now, you might be thinking: “You mean to say my wife hates me because she thinks I’m not strong enough?”
Bingo. You hit it right on the head.
It’s all because, for any healthy woman, her greatest need is to be led by a strong, dominant man who loves her.
And right now, she DOES NOT FEEL you’re the strong, dominant man she needs. That’s why she hates you so much.
I hope you now see why getting emotional and getting even are TERRIBLE mistakes to avoid at all costs.
Now, whether or not you’ve made these two mistakes, pay close attention.
If your wife hates you, then you absolutely MUST do what you’re about to learn in this article.
I’m about to teach you a technique called the “Hard Restart.”
As the name implies, it’ll “restart” your relationship, giving you a chance to start over on a clean slate.
And by that, I mean no more hate, no more indignation, no more hurt feelings… none of that.
If your wife hates you, then the Hard Restart might be your only hope for saving your marriage.
So let me tell you all about the Hard Restart technique.
I first learned about it from my friend and mentor, the attraction coach Derek Rake.
Now, Derek isn’t your usual “dating coach” or “pickup guru.” Instead, he teaches men how to lead successful relationships by doing one thing. And that is to understand the female mind completely.
And one of Derek’s most important lessons for men is this: That women fall in love in four distinct stages.
- First, she’ll feel curious about you.
- Then, she’ll like you.
- Then, she’ll fall in love with you.
- And lastly, she’ll feel completely addicted to you for life.
Now, when your wife hates you, it means she’s fallen “out of love” with you.
And that means if you want to save your marriage, you’ll want to restart the process from the beginning.
That’s where the “Hard Restart” technique comes in.
Now, the first step of the process is when your wife feels CURIOUS about you. That’s the key.
You’ll want your wife to feel more CURIOSITY about you more than HATE towards you.
And the only way to do that is to break up with her – for a time.
Yup, I’m not kidding.
You need to tell her: “You know what, this isn’t working out. Let’s take a time-out. Let’s go our separate ways for a while, do other things, meet other people.” That’s what you tell her.
Now, take note. You must TELL her, not ASK her. It’s not an option. No matter what she says, you pack your bags and spend a whole month away from her. No texts, no calls, no social media views, nothing.
It’s super-important to avoid contacting her in any way, shape, or form. This gives her a chance to wonder what you’re up to. That’s the CURIOSITY rising in her. And the more she thinks about you, the more she’ll miss you.
It’ll help if you spend the time-out doing enjoyable things that help you grow as a person. You can travel, try out new hobbies, touch base with old friends, and so on. It’s a plus if you post your new adventures on social media – you can bet your wife will be checking you out.
Eventually, at around the third week of zero contact, she’ll miss you enough to ask how you’re doing. That’s your sign that she feels more curiosity than hate.
When it’s been at least three weeks, you’re free to meet up with her. There, you treat her like a friend – just enough to make her like you again.
That’s the second step of the process. Making her like you.
After a few meet-ups like this – or even just one, if she missed you enough – she’ll pop the question. She’ll ask if you could give the marriage another shot.
Take note – it must be HER who asks to get back together, not you. If you made THAT mistake, you’ll look like a weakling all over again, and she’ll likely refuse.
So when she pops the question, it’s a sign that she’s in love with you again. That’s the third step.
When that happens, all you have to say is “Okay.”
Congratulations – you’ve successfully restarted your marriage on a clean slate.
Still, you’re not done.
There’s still the fourth step: To make her completely addicted to you for life.
After all, let’s face it – if she DOESN’T feel addicted to you, she’ll eventually hate you again. And this time, you won’t get her back.
So how do you make your wife feel ADDICTED to you?
The answer – with another one of Derek Rake’s techniques, of course.
This one is called “Fractionation.”
And guess what – it’s even EASIER TO USE than the Hard Restart technique.
That’s because Fractionation is a conversation technique.
On the surface, it sounds harmless – like you’re just telling her a bunch of interesting stories.
And yet as time goes by, she gets more and more hooked on you.
Before you know it, she’s totally committed to spending her life with you.
That’s the power of Fractionation. And you’re about to learn it today.
In just a moment, a link will show up in this video.
When you see it, click on it right away. You’ll be taken to a special Online Masterclass on Mind Control.
In this Masterclass, Derek Rake will introduce you to the art of Fractionation. You’ll learn what it is and how it works, and also how to use it.
As a matter of fact, why not try it out now, BEFORE you use the Hard Restart on your wife?
Fractionation is another way to trigger curiosity in your wife. Little by little, her hatred of you will give way to curiosity and enjoyment.
And all it takes is to tell the right stories at the right time. Fractionation is that simple. And it’s the “Golden Hammer” that you need to put your marriage back on the right track. Believe me because this is true.
So go ahead – learn how it’s done. Click on the link, join the Masterclass, and save your marriage. Do it.