If you’re pursuing a relationship with a woman right now, I have an important question for you:
Do you know what stage of love you’re in?
If you’re not sure, then be very careful. You’re at high risk of making mistakes and ruining your otherwise good relationship. Believe me because this is true.
Now, you might be wondering: “What mistakes are you talking about, Fredo?”
Here’s an example. Do you believe that the best relationships “move forward naturally?”
Do you believe that the best couples just “go with the flow,” or just “roll with the punches?”
If you do, then I have some bad news for you. You’ve been misled, and it’s DANGEROUS.
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Here’s why those things are dangerous:
Those little ideas… about relationships “moving forward naturally,” or happy couples just “going with the flow… they’re not based on fact.
Instead, they’re based on “feelings.” They’re ideas that make people FEEL good.
But in the long run, these ideas actually do the exact opposite of good.
For instance:
If you let your relationship just grow “naturally,” you’ll soon find that it actually STOPS growing. Why? Because it has no direction.
Or if you just “go with the flow” with your woman, she’ll soon feel dissatisfied and frustrated… because her relationship with you has no direction.
That’s the danger of following “feel-good” advice that’s NOT based on fact.
The Truth About Relationships
So what’s the truth about relationships?
The truth is something you won’t hear from mass media… because it’s not “feel-good.”
In fact, the truth is controversial by politically-correct standards.
The truth is this: Your relationship needs leadership.
YOUR leadership.
And that’s not all.
Your relationship needs you to guide it through FOUR distinct stages of love.
So no, your relationship doesn’t “grow naturally.”
If you try to let your relationship “grow naturally,” then it will die a natural death.
That’s the inconvenient truth about relationships. This is proven by research – marriages often fail because couples try to “wing it”1.
And here’s more truth for you:
If you DON’T know what the four stages of love are, then you’ll NEVER be successful at it.
All your relationships WILL fail at some point. That’s the bad news.
But when you DO know what the four stages of love are… then you can finally become the leader your woman desperately needs you to be.
And here’s the good news. This guide will teach you all about the four stages of love in a relationship.
You’ll learn what each stage is all about, what to do at each stage, and how to move to the next stage… all the way until you build that strong, happy, lifelong relationship you’ve always wanted.
Stages of Love: Shogun Method’s IRAE Model
What’s The IRAE Model?
The four stages of love are also known by its technical name inside Shogun Method: The IRAE Model.
- The first IRAE stage is called the “Intrigue” Stage. It’s where a woman first feels curious about, or interested in, you.
- The second IRAE stage is called the “Rapport” Stage. It’s where a woman starts seeing you as someone she can trust.
- The third IRAE stage is called the “Attraction” Stage. It’s where a woman starts feeling attracted to you… sexually, romantically, or both.
- The fourth stage is called the “Enslavement” Stage. It’s where a woman commits her entire life to you.
The IRAE Model was developed and popularized by the famous hypnotist and Dark Mind Control authority, Derek Rake.
Derek is the founder of Shogun Method. It’s a system of dating and relationship management that uses Dark Mind Control.
To date, Shogun Method has 17,000+ followers all over the world.
And all of them follow the IRAE Model framework. And that’s why they absolutely kill it in their love lives.
My advice? You should, too… because Shogun Method works.
Intrigue, Rapport, Attraction, Enslavement
Now let’s talk about the IRAE Model in more detail…
To summarize, IRAE stands for the initials of the four stages of love:
Intrigue, Rapport, Attraction, Enslavement
When it comes to using the IRAE Model to attract women, the rules are simple:
- Rule one: You must go through the stages in order.
- Rule two: You must NOT skip a stage on the way to the Enslavement stage.
- Rule three: Unless you reach the Enslavement Stage with a woman, she’ll leave you eventually.
Inside Shogun Method, these rules are sacrosanct. Shogun Method is rigid by design – and that’s what makes it so effective. The IRAE Model is how women fall in love, and Shogun Method exploits this knowledge to the fullest extent.
Now let’s go through each of the four Stages inside the IRAE Model, one by one.
First Stage of Love: Intrigue
When she’s just a stranger or acquaintance who’s interested in you, then you’re at the Intrigue Stage.
Your goal at the Intrigue Stage is to make her interested and curious enough about you… that she goes out of her way to know you better.
And you do this using a Shogun Method technique known as Intrigue Pings. Using these Intrigue Pings are how you keep a woman interested in you. You’ll also want to know how to avoid awkward silences (read this guide).
Once she does that, it’s a sign you’ve passed the Intrigue Stage, and it’s time to move on to the next stage of love.
Second Stage of Love: Rapport
When a woman is your friend, colleague, or otherwise sees you as an equal, then you’re in the Rapport Stage with her.
Your goal in the Rapport Stage inside the IRAE Model is two-fold:
- To make her feel like she can trust you more than anyone else in the world, and
- To make her feel the first feelings of romantic or sexual attraction to you.
This is where many guys make mistakes.
You can be very good at making women like you and trust you.
However…
Unless you can trigger those feelings of romantic or sexual attraction in her… she’ll only ever see you as a friend.
This is the dreaded “friend zone” where the Rapport she shares with you is contextualized to the non-romantic kind. When you’re friend-zoned, your sexual tension with her is zero.
So make no mistake:
If you’re in the Rapport stage, you MUST avoid falling into the “friend zone” trap.
Falling into the friend zone is one of the WORST mistakes you could ever make.

You’ll sabotage all your efforts. No joke.
And if you still want a chance with the woman who friend-zoned you… you’ll need to start the process all over from the beginning.
It’s a massive pain, so avoid the friend- zone at all costs!
But here’s the good news — there’s a simple way to sidestep the friend zone.
And I’m about to show you how to do just that.
How To Avoid The Friend Zone
The answer is simple – you use a Dark Mind Control technique called Fractionation.
So what is Fractionation, and how does it work?
Fractionation involves putting a woman on an emotional rollercoaster of your creation.
To be more specific, you’ll be giving a woman some feelings of romance… followed by feelings of non-romance… then some more feelings of romance.
But you don’t do it obviously and directly. Instead, you’ll be discrete… sprinkling hints of romance in your conversations with her.
Here’s an example of Fractionation in action:
- First, you talk about a non-romantic topic, like travel.
- Then you give the conversation a romantic edge… such as mentioning how you and your ex used to travel all the time.
- Then you make things non-romantic again… such as by asking her about her dream destinations in the world.
- Then you turn things romantic again… such as by hinting that you should travel together once you get to know each other better.
You get the idea!
Now, I know I just gave you a very general introduction to Fractionation.
That’s because Fractionation is a LOT MORE POWERFUL than I can explain in a short guide like this.
That’s why I highly recommend you sign up for Derek Rake’s Online Masterclass.
In the Masterclass, Derek will show you exactly how powerful Fractionation is… and how you can use that power to take full control of your relationships with women.
Click here for Derek Rake’s Online Masterclass. It’s free.
Now back to our discussion about the stages of love…
So how do you know if Fractionation is working for you at this stage?
Here’s the sign you should be looking for: When she starts talking about romantic topics all by herself.
During this time, try to pull back a little. And if she’s really deep into the Rapport stage, she might even chase you a bit.
When you see that sign, it’s time to move on to the next stage in the IRAE Model.
Third Stage of Love: Attraction
Here, she’s clearly interested in being more than friends with you.
Either she wants to be your girlfriend… or your secret lover… or something in between.
At this point, all you’ll need is to give a few well-crafted suggestions to her.
You can tell her:
“I could ask you to be my girlfriend… but I won’t. Not yet.”
Or you could tell her:
“I could ask if you wanted to start dating, and you could say yes… but that’s up to you.”
Or you could also tell her:
“You could always go home with me instead of getting bored here… your call.”
You’ll know you did it right when she willingly becomes your girlfriend.
On the other hand, if she tells you that “she needs space“, it means that she’s falling back in the IRAE Model. Also, remember that there are women who are natural players, and they may fake their attraction to you.
And once you’re in a real relationship with her, it’s time to seal the deal by moving onto the last stage.
Fourth Stage of Love: Enslavement
The Enslavement Stage is the most important stage inside the IRAE Model.
It’s where a woman feels so completely emotionally addicted to you… that she commits to spending her entire life with you.
Now here’s the rub: I’m not the right person to tell you how to “Enslave” a woman emotionally.
I’ll leave that to Derek Rake.
Derek says the same thing to every one of his students:
“If you have no plans to spend your entire life with a woman, then DO NOT reach the Enslavement Stage with her.”
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It’s too dangerous, and if you leave her AFTER you Enslave her, she’ll be scarred and broken for life.
That’s why I hesitate to teach you all about the Enslavement Stage in this guide.
But I do have something even better for you.
Join Derek Rake’s Online Masterclass on Mind Control.
If you want to learn how to use Dark Mind Control to lead and dominate your relationships… no matter at what Stage you might be in, then guess what? Derek is the man to teach you how. He’s the best in the biz… believe me because this is true.
Inside Shogun Method, you’ll learn about the legendary Black Rose Sequence: the probably the one and only hypnotic pattern that is designed for emotional Enslavement.
The Black Rose Sequence is not for everyone, and once you’ve seen it, you’ll understand why. Most men simply can’t handle its power.
Can you?
REFERENCES- Storaasli, Ragnar D., and Howard J. Markman. “Relationship problems in the early stages of marriage: A longitudinal investigation.” Journal of Family Psychology 4.1 (1990): 80.[↩]
- Derek Rake, Implications of Emotional Enslavement, Shogun Method, 2015[↩]